Friday, September 30, 2005
The Weblog Review
After the rather disappointing review I got about the rambles over on my "real blog" a couple of years ago, The Weblog Review and I are friends again. Here is why:
The first thing that I noticed as I arrived to The Other blog was the layout. Usually, it's not the first thing I notice, and if it is, that's bad. This blog was quite the contrary. Just on the basis of the warm brown hues of the background, I was compelled to read more. That's when I looked at the header. "The Other Blog: ...of coming to terms and coming out." This, of course, could only mean one thing, and I was interested. Having several gay and lesbian friends, and being bisexual myself, I knew right away that this was a blog that was going to interest me.
As I read the sidebar (first, as is my habit when I visit blogs: read the static content before the transitional), I learned some things about the author. She's 26, bisexual, and lives in Europe with her fiance and two cats. She's mostly in the closet still, which is why this is "The Other Blog" and not "The Main Blog". I know that some of the people close to me would probably be a little awkward if they knew my situation, so I can relate to what she's dealing with. The sidebar directs me to read the older posts, and as I do, I realize more and more how much I can relate with her blog. Post after post, sounding incredibly familiar and understandable. I'm hooked.
The content is deep. The posts are long and plentiful, and quite descript. She assigns nicknames to the people involved in her story as it churns, as to protect their anonymity. (The explanation of each person is explained in her sidebar.) Brilliantly detailed and drawn together quite well, I felt myself getting fully attached to many of the posts.
Overall, this is a very good blog. I wouldn't suggest everyone read it, because I know there are several close-minded people in the world who look down on this sort of "decision", but for anyone who is wise enough to look past the normal and see into an area that often goes unexplored (for fear of ridicule), this blog is an absolute must. If you're against bisexuality you're obviously not going to like it, since that's the whole point of the blog. I myself will most likely be making several return visits.
My thanks to babz for her kind words. It is not like I am writing this blog to find some sort of "official" recognition, but now that I got it, it does make me feel somehow acknowledged. I find it satisfying to see that other people can connect with what I am writing, and maybe through this review I will gain some more regular readers here - simply to reach more people that may be in similar situations as me. I feel like there is not enough presence of bisexuals and our issues on the web (- not in comparison to gays and lesbians, anyway), and the more of us come together on the web, the better.
About TWR's opinion on this in comparison to their opinion on my "real blog", which got rated more than averagely and with a lot of lacking enthusiasm: I guess it makes a difference and raises my literal competence when I actually have something of interest to talk about, vs. just rambling on about daily events of rather secondary importance.
And speaking of importance. The URL change? (Subtle, huh.) Let's just say I was found and read by someone I seriously didn't want to be found and read by, and while the thought of him knowing all about our bisexuality doesn't bother me at all, his potential presence here still inhibits me in my freedom to write about everything and anything that comes to my head. Let's just see how long this URL will last in its secrecy toward people I know personally and do not want to know about this in too much detail. It is ironic, really, to think that the internet is the most anonymous media out there, yet I am not able to keep my presence in it (and most of all my location) covert.
And still on the subject of importance... The Fiancé and I are scheduled for a double date tomorrow. I have used the internet once again to get in touch with a bisexual girl, and we've been emailing back and forth for about a week now. She is funny with exactly my kind of humor, and from writing I think we have quite a few things in common: for instants a boyfriend. It is refreshing to talk with someone who is in more or less the same situation as me, and wants more or less the same things out of this that I do. We have exchanged phone numbers now, sent a couple of text messages even (- not talked yet though: I missed her first call because I couldn't find my cell in the chaos of my purse quickly enough when it rang), and for tomorrow she asked if The Fiancé and I wanted to go out for dinner with her and her boyfriend.
I liked that a) she asked, and b) that she included her and my partners into this.
Of course, the Amy desaster is still in the back of my head. Emailing was all fun and nice and dandy, and so was talking on the phone, but all the chemistry was lost on her part the second we met for the first time. And instead of telling me, she just wasn't available for contact anymore after that, making me feel like a stalking idiot for all my unanswered emails and text messages.
I am nervous about something like this happening again... but she assured me that - if all chemistry fails - friendship is more crucial than all physical attraction. Another point on her scoreboard, most definitely. If anything, I am looking forward to meeting new people in this old home of mine, which has gotten so stale to me over the years. The Fiancé seems reasonably excited too. An opportunity for potential new friends should never be let slip unattended.
The first thing that I noticed as I arrived to The Other blog was the layout. Usually, it's not the first thing I notice, and if it is, that's bad. This blog was quite the contrary. Just on the basis of the warm brown hues of the background, I was compelled to read more. That's when I looked at the header. "The Other Blog: ...of coming to terms and coming out." This, of course, could only mean one thing, and I was interested. Having several gay and lesbian friends, and being bisexual myself, I knew right away that this was a blog that was going to interest me.
As I read the sidebar (first, as is my habit when I visit blogs: read the static content before the transitional), I learned some things about the author. She's 26, bisexual, and lives in Europe with her fiance and two cats. She's mostly in the closet still, which is why this is "The Other Blog" and not "The Main Blog". I know that some of the people close to me would probably be a little awkward if they knew my situation, so I can relate to what she's dealing with. The sidebar directs me to read the older posts, and as I do, I realize more and more how much I can relate with her blog. Post after post, sounding incredibly familiar and understandable. I'm hooked.
The content is deep. The posts are long and plentiful, and quite descript. She assigns nicknames to the people involved in her story as it churns, as to protect their anonymity. (The explanation of each person is explained in her sidebar.) Brilliantly detailed and drawn together quite well, I felt myself getting fully attached to many of the posts.
Overall, this is a very good blog. I wouldn't suggest everyone read it, because I know there are several close-minded people in the world who look down on this sort of "decision", but for anyone who is wise enough to look past the normal and see into an area that often goes unexplored (for fear of ridicule), this blog is an absolute must. If you're against bisexuality you're obviously not going to like it, since that's the whole point of the blog. I myself will most likely be making several return visits.
My thanks to babz for her kind words. It is not like I am writing this blog to find some sort of "official" recognition, but now that I got it, it does make me feel somehow acknowledged. I find it satisfying to see that other people can connect with what I am writing, and maybe through this review I will gain some more regular readers here - simply to reach more people that may be in similar situations as me. I feel like there is not enough presence of bisexuals and our issues on the web (- not in comparison to gays and lesbians, anyway), and the more of us come together on the web, the better.
About TWR's opinion on this in comparison to their opinion on my "real blog", which got rated more than averagely and with a lot of lacking enthusiasm: I guess it makes a difference and raises my literal competence when I actually have something of interest to talk about, vs. just rambling on about daily events of rather secondary importance.
And speaking of importance. The URL change? (Subtle, huh.) Let's just say I was found and read by someone I seriously didn't want to be found and read by, and while the thought of him knowing all about our bisexuality doesn't bother me at all, his potential presence here still inhibits me in my freedom to write about everything and anything that comes to my head. Let's just see how long this URL will last in its secrecy toward people I know personally and do not want to know about this in too much detail. It is ironic, really, to think that the internet is the most anonymous media out there, yet I am not able to keep my presence in it (and most of all my location) covert.
And still on the subject of importance... The Fiancé and I are scheduled for a double date tomorrow. I have used the internet once again to get in touch with a bisexual girl, and we've been emailing back and forth for about a week now. She is funny with exactly my kind of humor, and from writing I think we have quite a few things in common: for instants a boyfriend. It is refreshing to talk with someone who is in more or less the same situation as me, and wants more or less the same things out of this that I do. We have exchanged phone numbers now, sent a couple of text messages even (- not talked yet though: I missed her first call because I couldn't find my cell in the chaos of my purse quickly enough when it rang), and for tomorrow she asked if The Fiancé and I wanted to go out for dinner with her and her boyfriend.
I liked that a) she asked, and b) that she included her and my partners into this.
Of course, the Amy desaster is still in the back of my head. Emailing was all fun and nice and dandy, and so was talking on the phone, but all the chemistry was lost on her part the second we met for the first time. And instead of telling me, she just wasn't available for contact anymore after that, making me feel like a stalking idiot for all my unanswered emails and text messages.
I am nervous about something like this happening again... but she assured me that - if all chemistry fails - friendship is more crucial than all physical attraction. Another point on her scoreboard, most definitely. If anything, I am looking forward to meeting new people in this old home of mine, which has gotten so stale to me over the years. The Fiancé seems reasonably excited too. An opportunity for potential new friends should never be let slip unattended.
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Hey, congrats on the glowing review!
At first I thought, hey, I never get reviewed, I'm jealous!! But then I thought, lady, all you write is pointless crap (which, really, I guess DOES fall into "Things you don't care about" as I proclaim, I guess.) You'd be panned, especially if they went there right now! And then you'd cry, cry for hours, like a big fat baby. Baby!
Ah, I just need some direction. In my blog... In my life.
Good luck on the date! :)
At first I thought, hey, I never get reviewed, I'm jealous!! But then I thought, lady, all you write is pointless crap (which, really, I guess DOES fall into "Things you don't care about" as I proclaim, I guess.) You'd be panned, especially if they went there right now! And then you'd cry, cry for hours, like a big fat baby. Baby!
Ah, I just need some direction. In my blog... In my life.
Good luck on the date! :)
That is a great review! And all the comments are true. :) Have fun on your date.
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