Friday, April 08, 2005
Accidental Abortion
My cousin finally showed some sense and is going to get rid of the baby.
And no, I am not really for abortion, but I am not really against it either, when circumstances call for a drastic decision. That girl can't even take care of herself, how can she be expected to be a responsible mother? Sad though, that because of the stupidity and irresponsibility of one person another human being won't ever get his or her chance at life. But it is what it is, and in the long run I strongly believe that this is better for all parties involved, the unborn child included. If I were her though, I wouldn't know how to live with myself anymore, now.
And what's really funny is how my mother exasperatedly exclaimed that "she is way too young to have a baby, anyways"... considering that my cousin is 20... and my mother had me when she was 20, and my sister when she was 23. But then I guess that "that was different, back then".
Sure... whatever helps y'all to feel better about this.
What I cannot understand on a personal level, and looking back on my own sexual history: how do people accidentally get pregnant? Ok. Let me rephrase that. I know how they do... but how can anybody in their right mind not take care enough of herself to even give it a remote chance of happening? Exposing herself to the possibility of happening? I know I am probally going to piss off some people with this, but ladies... I have been having sex since 10 years, on a regular and frequent basis, and not once was I worried about having accidentally gotten pregnant. With none of my partners. Not as a "horny teenager", not as an adult. Why? Because I act responsibly, no matter how "out of hand" things can become "in the heat of the moment".
There is no such thing as "the heat of the moment", when my life and the way I want it to go is at stake. There is no such thing as an "accident", when I know where I am headed in life, and determined on reaching that goal. There is nothing I will "accidentally" let get in the way of me and my life and how I want it to be, and nobody can tell me that "things can happen". Things won't happen, if you know how to take care of yourself. In 10 years... I never had one pregnancy scare, with the exception of when my period was almost 2 weeks late once - because I had a serious flu.
Let me tell you what I think about "accidental" pregancies. To me, there are only 3 reasons for them: a) the woman is tricking and trapping a man, telling him she "accidentally" got pregnant, and honey, remember, the pill only works in 99.9% of all cases, afterall. b) the woman has the hormonal mommy-tickles and deep down inside really wouldn't mind if she got pregant no matter what she portrays to the rest of the world, so on an unconscious level she becomes careless. And c) the woman is just plain irresponsible and/or stupid, having sex when she really shouldn't have (drunk, on drugs, etc.), believing that somehow sperm won't get her pregnant this time, or she just doesn't care about consequences, period.
Not that I am judging anybody. For what it's worth, until recently I could well have been categorized under b). My cousin probably falls under c). As for me now? Now that I suddenly really have something going on in my life that - with a bit of luck and a lot of hard work - just could turn into something extraordinary, I peeled myself out of category b) and took a firm hold of the steering wheel again, no matter how strongly the mommy hormones sometimes tickle me. As long as I have my hand on that steering wheel, there will be no "accidental" pregnancies in my life, and nobody can tell me that "I could never know". Yes, I can know. I do know. I have known for the past decade. With bodies that carry the capabilities that any woman's body does, we know how to prevent pregnancies, if we really want to.
And if sometime in the future, for whatever reason, you suddenly log on to this website and read about how I got "accidentally" pregnant, and how it all really wasn't my fault, and how the condom ripped, or the pill miraculously stopped working... let me tell you now: I probably fell back into category b) and just try to make it sound like something else.
Simple as that.
That said, and on another topic: The Fiancé and I didn't get to go to West Hollywood last night, because we ended up stuck in a draining business meeting that lasted from 6pm to 10:30pm... sorry Chica that we ruined your date because you needed us to give you a ride... we'll make it up to you soon. :(
And no, I am not really for abortion, but I am not really against it either, when circumstances call for a drastic decision. That girl can't even take care of herself, how can she be expected to be a responsible mother? Sad though, that because of the stupidity and irresponsibility of one person another human being won't ever get his or her chance at life. But it is what it is, and in the long run I strongly believe that this is better for all parties involved, the unborn child included. If I were her though, I wouldn't know how to live with myself anymore, now.
And what's really funny is how my mother exasperatedly exclaimed that "she is way too young to have a baby, anyways"... considering that my cousin is 20... and my mother had me when she was 20, and my sister when she was 23. But then I guess that "that was different, back then".
Sure... whatever helps y'all to feel better about this.
What I cannot understand on a personal level, and looking back on my own sexual history: how do people accidentally get pregnant? Ok. Let me rephrase that. I know how they do... but how can anybody in their right mind not take care enough of herself to even give it a remote chance of happening? Exposing herself to the possibility of happening? I know I am probally going to piss off some people with this, but ladies... I have been having sex since 10 years, on a regular and frequent basis, and not once was I worried about having accidentally gotten pregnant. With none of my partners. Not as a "horny teenager", not as an adult. Why? Because I act responsibly, no matter how "out of hand" things can become "in the heat of the moment".
There is no such thing as "the heat of the moment", when my life and the way I want it to go is at stake. There is no such thing as an "accident", when I know where I am headed in life, and determined on reaching that goal. There is nothing I will "accidentally" let get in the way of me and my life and how I want it to be, and nobody can tell me that "things can happen". Things won't happen, if you know how to take care of yourself. In 10 years... I never had one pregnancy scare, with the exception of when my period was almost 2 weeks late once - because I had a serious flu.
Let me tell you what I think about "accidental" pregancies. To me, there are only 3 reasons for them: a) the woman is tricking and trapping a man, telling him she "accidentally" got pregnant, and honey, remember, the pill only works in 99.9% of all cases, afterall. b) the woman has the hormonal mommy-tickles and deep down inside really wouldn't mind if she got pregant no matter what she portrays to the rest of the world, so on an unconscious level she becomes careless. And c) the woman is just plain irresponsible and/or stupid, having sex when she really shouldn't have (drunk, on drugs, etc.), believing that somehow sperm won't get her pregnant this time, or she just doesn't care about consequences, period.
Not that I am judging anybody. For what it's worth, until recently I could well have been categorized under b). My cousin probably falls under c). As for me now? Now that I suddenly really have something going on in my life that - with a bit of luck and a lot of hard work - just could turn into something extraordinary, I peeled myself out of category b) and took a firm hold of the steering wheel again, no matter how strongly the mommy hormones sometimes tickle me. As long as I have my hand on that steering wheel, there will be no "accidental" pregnancies in my life, and nobody can tell me that "I could never know". Yes, I can know. I do know. I have known for the past decade. With bodies that carry the capabilities that any woman's body does, we know how to prevent pregnancies, if we really want to.
And if sometime in the future, for whatever reason, you suddenly log on to this website and read about how I got "accidentally" pregnant, and how it all really wasn't my fault, and how the condom ripped, or the pill miraculously stopped working... let me tell you now: I probably fell back into category b) and just try to make it sound like something else.
Simple as that.
That said, and on another topic: The Fiancé and I didn't get to go to West Hollywood last night, because we ended up stuck in a draining business meeting that lasted from 6pm to 10:30pm... sorry Chica that we ruined your date because you needed us to give you a ride... we'll make it up to you soon. :(
